Online dating and romance sites are obviously popular and because of that, regardless of the millions of admonitions to watch out for con artists, they are also a growing favorite of heartless scammers.
The FBI notes that these callous criminals — who also troll social media sites and chat rooms in search of romantic victims — usually claim to be Americans traveling or working abroad. In reality, they often live overseas. Their most common targets are women over 40, who are divorced, widowed, and/or disabled, but every age group and demographic is at risk, the agency stated. The FBI said that as of 2012 the average financial loss from these romance schemes is between $15,000 and $20,000. That number is nearly double what it was a decade ago.
The Federal Trade Commission this week wrote: We hear these stories all the time, and they tend to go a little like this: "I met this really nice woman on [fill in the name of the dating site]. Her membership was about to expire, so we switched to email. She's from the US, but she's working in [fill in the name of another country]. We connected right away, and we're planning to meet. But things are a little tight for her right now because of [fill in reason for no money]. So I wired her the money for the ticket...."
You might think that scenario sounds a little too pedestrian perhaps, but the FBI and FTC say it happens all the time. The scammers in fact count on it.
The FTC says scammers create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love. Some even make wedding plans before disappearing with the money.
So what to do? The FBI and FTC issued these watch items that they say should make you run away if you hear from you prospective date:
- An immediate request to leave the site. Many online dating sites have protections in place to help protect you from scammers.
- Love at first sight. Most of us are hopeful people, but wow love based on a profile and a couple of emails? Hmm. Sure, explore that, but watch out.
- Any request for money. ANY request. For any reason: plane tickets, visas, a child's (mother's, whoever's) hospital bill, expenses until their ship comes in.... That is a sure sign of a scam. Block and delete them and move along.
- Any mention of wiring money. If you wire money, it's gone. Buh-bye. You'll never see it again.
- Sends you a photograph of himself or herself that looks like something from a glamour magazine.
- Claims to be from the U.S. and is traveling or working overseas.
- Makes plans to visit you but is then unable to do so because of a tragic event.
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