If that’s too much work, then you can turn on the option to review the posts friends tag you in before they appear on your timeline. This way, the picture your cousin posts of you napping after your second helping of stuffing may still appear on his timeline, but it won’t automatically pop up on yours. To do this, go to your Timeline and Tagging settings, then enable the “Review posts friends tag you in before they appear on your timeline?” option.
People in your limited profile group still have the potential to see the posts which are set to be shared with all friends. People in the restricted group are basically there because it would be too awkward to unfriend them, but you really don’t care to share anything with them at all. The only things that people in the restricted group can see on your page are the posts you set to “public.”
Now you’ve managed to control the content that people post on your page, and you’ve managed to reduce the likelihood that people will stir the pot in the comments on your posts. Unfortunately, there is no one good way to keep that jerkstore cousin from posting your post-Thanksgiving nap picture on his own Facebook page. There used to be a method for preventing people from tagging you, but Facebook quietly disappeared it a while ago. (People are still clamoring for it.)
So you’ll have to resort to the non-tech hack: Ask people to please not tag you in photos or posts.
Tip #2: Consider a plug-in
There’s a browser extension called F.B. Purity that does a great job of sweeping a lot of cruft off your feed, like suggested posts, related posts, sponsored posts, or game invitations. I like it for two key features: It turns auto-play off in videos (you must click to play) and it lets you hide trending topics, which is not a bad thing if you’re spoiler-averse (a lot of people post about television shows and sports) or not in a place to deal with seeing an endless parade of tragic headlines.
Tip #3: Unfollow liberally
Note that unfollowing is not the same thing as unfriending. You can unfollow the people you’re friends with—maybe they post too many selfies, maybe their statuses are ceaseless litanies of woe—and remain Facebook friends.
Why would you go to this trouble? Because sometimes, in order to maintain peace in face-to-face interactions, you have to play nicely online. So stop getting bummed out by your cousin’s vaguebooking (i.e. statuses like “Sometimes, you really find out who’s on your side”). The next time he posts, just wander on over to the upper-right corner of that post and click the “unfollow” option. You’ll never have to wonder who’s stabbed him in the back again.
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